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Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Lies and other facts of life

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, the definiton of LIE= to make an untrue statement with intent to deceive OR to create a false impression.

Pretty good. I'd like to throw in the act of lying by withholding information, since many people believe a lie to only be something you actually say. NOT saying something beause you know if u tell it, your ass is gonna be in trouble, is just as much of a lie.

Also, making excuses is a form of a lie. Attemtping to bend and twist the truth by excusing it in order to make yourself look a little less shitty, is a lie. Especially the excuses that begin with "See what had happened was" or "I promise on all i own" or "I was sleep" or "My phone was on silent." Tragic.

So i'm a bit of a realist. Well, regarding some things, i'm a realist, and I know that EVERYONE lies. I don't care how holy, sanctified and innocent you claim to be, you're a damn lie. Now, not everyone lies regularly. There are people who toss in a lie every blue moon to cover their ass or to avoid confrontation. These are the Sometimey Situational Liars. There are people who believe in defaulting to a good lie when they know it will get them something. They are the Convenient Liars. There are those who know how to form an amazing lie at the drop of a dime to cover up any and everything, no matter what. The professional Liars. And there are those who just like to make up shit just because. They don't even need a reason. These people are the Psycho Habitual Liars. [run from them]

I will admit to being a good liar. I've told my share. Most of mine involve withholding shit instead of actually voicing a lie. But I can spin a good excuse as well. I've been decently reformed over the last few years as I've matured and found someone who doesn't deserve that kind of treatment. But because I used to participate in telling them, I can spot a lie from about ten sentences away. Before it even gets out the mouth good, i'm sniffing it out. A helpful trait to have but a little discouraging and tiresome. Anywho.

I would like to know at what point do you cut the liar off and say fuck you and have a nice life? Does it depend on the amount of lies told? The depth of the lie? What the lie is about? Or does it depend on the nature of the relationship? How long you've been together, etc.

For myself, it truly depends on the nature of the relationship. If I'm ehhhh about the person and they just steadily lie to me, i'm showing em the door. No questions asked and none answered. But if i'm in love with the person and know I want to make it work, I have to take my time cautiously proceeding forward. It then becomes dependent on whether or not i believe they are genuinely sorry, whether or not I believe the lies & the shady activity will stop and whether or not I will be able to trust them again. If these things can fall into place for me and im SHOWN i have a reason to trust someone, chances are it will work. But if i'm not seeing any changes, no maam. To the left you go.

I feel like lies are gonna be told in one form or another. People are human and we make mistakes. Does that mean all of us who make mistakes should just forever be branded and cast to the side? hmm. I think if we all continued to ditch the people we care about because they have lied to us...we'll be left sad and lonely waiting for the one miracle-person who never ever lies. [Jesus has already came and went, yall. So good luck with that] *shrug*


1 comment:

  1. My issue is the no-reason-ass lairs. The ones that make up dumb shit. Lie for nothing. Or think they are getting away with dum-ass-lies.

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